Recognizing Toxic Relationships

where can i buy amoxicillin 500mg Toxic relationships aren’t always romantic relationships. Friendships can be toxic. Relationships with family members can be toxic. Sometimes it can be hard to let go of a relationship, because we’re comfortable. Walking away from being comfortable and choosing to be uncomfortable usually is not our first choice. It is important to be able to decipher rather you’re in a toxic relationship or not.

safe site to buy nolvadex When I was in college, my first long-term, serious relationship was extremely toxic and I had no clue just how toxic the relationship was until after the relationship had ended badly. A few weeks after the breakup, when I started to get my groove back, I had many relatives and friends say to me, “It was so evident that you were not happy- I’m glad to see you happy again”. Once I realized the toxicity of my relationship, I was relieved to be out of it and happy again.

You Feel Bad/ Red Flags.

You have that stinging feeling in your gut when you think about your relationship. You feel as if something is missing. When you see other couples that are happy, it literally makes you feel sick. Maybe something else in the relationship is making you feel bad and lacking the love, security, and respect that you deserve. Maybe your partner is abusive- mentally, physically, and/or emotionally, controlling, manipulative- they do not listen to your concerns, they have a narcissistic personality, neglects to resolve conflict, a liar, apathetic, unapologetic, blames others, and will not admit to their mistakes

Staying in a toxic relationship will ultimately deplete your confidence, courage, and strength. Even though the relationship feels bad, you feel as if you have to stay in the relationship- this is because your self-esteem has been diminished. Leaving a relationship is never easy, bust staying in a toxic relationship erodes some of your strongest qualities.

What now?

After you recognize that you’re in a toxic relationship- which is very difficult. Many people are blinded by the thought of having someone or they make excuses for their partner’s behavior, (I was guilty of both in my previous relationship) that they create a mental block negating any type of self-reasoning from occurring. When you realize you’re in a toxic relationship, decide what you want, what you deserve, and be very clear about that.

After my relationship that I was discussing earlier, I was in another one that actually led to an engagement. While we were engaged, I noticed the relationship getting very toxic. My ex tried to control and manipulate me in a myriad of ways. After recognizing the signs and examining my own happiness, I declared what I wanted and what I needed in order for the relationship to work. Of course, my needs were not addressed and he tried manipulating me, again, so I began to keep my distance emotionally. Once I became emotionally withdrawn, I knew I was done. There was nothing else that could be done, I did not want to be in another toxic relationship. I had to leave and once again find my happiness.

You Are Stronger Than You Realize

Find refugee in the fact that you are strong and vital. Do not allow another soul to push you into believing otherwise. You do not need that person. You need YOU to be healthy- mentally, emotionally, and physically. 

There are a myriad of reasons why you might end up in a toxic relationship- I ended up in two very toxic and very unhealthy relationships. Both relationships have nothing to do with who I am as a person nor my character.

Love can be dirty. Toxicity often blooms in the shadows and blindsides you. By the time you realize how unhappy you are, you feel as if you are in too deep. You are soaked in fear and it paralyzes you to the extent where you feel that you can’t leave.  Staying in a relationship should never mean that you lose yourself as one of the conditions. You are worth more.

A healthy relationship makes you consistently smile, not consistently cry. It nourishes your soul and replenishes your spirit. It does not rob you of your joy or makes you cringe and hallow. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to thrive. You deserve to feel secure. You deserve to be loved. You don’t owe anyone a damn thing- leave.

If you are struggling, talk to a counselor, join a self-help group- facebook has thousands, set boundaries, seek positive relationships. You got this. You are strong, You are powerful, You are worthy<3

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